yesterday somebody asked me how did i know that i had fall in love, and the discussion developed into more serious topic which is how did you know that he is the ONE for you .. today, while doing some blog walking i came across this entry ..
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies(unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement)of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, 'Did I found the right person?' And as you and your partner reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown. People blame their partner for their unhappiness and look after somebody else for fulfillment.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out..' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship works.
hope this will answer you ease your doubtful feeling towards him .. hahaha .. relax la .. he had already reply your email right ..
p/s : i just copy paste the article and make some alteration on it . so, kalau jumpe ape-ape ayat pelik pelik tu makne terlepas pandang la tu . saye sendiri pun tak abes bace lagi . haha . the article is too long for my brain to digest the meaning behind it ..
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies(unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement)of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, 'Did I found the right person?' And as you and your partner reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown. People blame their partner for their unhappiness and look after somebody else for fulfillment.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out..' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship works.
hope this will answer you ease your doubtful feeling towards him .. hahaha .. relax la .. he had already reply your email right ..
p/s : i just copy paste the article and make some alteration on it . so, kalau jumpe ape-ape ayat pelik pelik tu makne terlepas pandang la tu . saye sendiri pun tak abes bace lagi . haha . the article is too long for my brain to digest the meaning behind it ..
bole je komen....heeeee
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